Every few days I look at Simeon with an incredulous expression and announce–as if it’s crossed my mind for the very first time–”We’re going to have a baby in a few months.” A baby. A BABY!
The reality of this “situation” (despite my faked incredulity) is absolutely clear to us. And yet… It’s a fact I’m finding impossible to wrap my head around. I’ve been through numerous transitions in my life but nothing compares to the scale and magnitude of what is about to happen for us.
First, let me say for the record that Sim and I are fully aware that it’s realistically impossible to truly prepare for the arrival of our first child. We know with great certainty that we have no idea what we’re getting into. We know that we don’t even know the beginning of what we don’t know.
We can’t foresee what kind of kid we’re going to get, or how birth will change us, or what flavor our new family will have. We could read all the books and collect all the advice and we’d still be no better off at preparing for the arrival of the biggest shock of our lives.
And that’s the rub. The books, the advice, the mommy-wars, it’s all white noise when it comes to true parenting prep. What I’m relying on to help me transition now and in the delivery room is my intuition and my gut feelings. We’re lucky to live in an age when a woman’s innate knowledge–built over the thousands of years that Women have given birth–is acknowledged and even encouraged. Not everywhere of course, but it’s better than it was even 40 years ago.
So, how are we really preparing ourselves? We are reading the books, but reading our bodies’ signals more. We’re listening to advice we find online and in our social circles, but listening more closely to what our hearts have to say instead. We are turning to each other in the quiet of night, the dawn of day, and in the precious in between moments and with an incredulous expression announcing the elephant truth that will soon change our lives forever. And in fact, already has.
In a few months, we’re going to have a baby. And we are so excited.