Facing the Fear of Being Me

My latest post at The Girl Who Knows is up today and I thought I’d share a preview here. I know all too well that many people share in the fear of being their authentic selves, showing up fully without armor or a mask. It’s not an easy task in a world that favors the beautiful over the vulnerable, but it is a challenge we all face at one time or another.

May this post inspire a little more courage to act as you and a little more faith in your truest Self.

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The car ride was making me anxious.

While my husband drove, I fussed with my hair and added a 14th layer of tinted chap-stick in the confidence boosting shade of “Fig”.

We were due for dinner at the house of my husband’s colleague and I wanted to make a good impression.

My husband had just started working at the small New England college where our host worked as Dean. For some reason, the idea of hanging out with a Dean all evening was intimidating.

I look young for my age and folks on campus had been assuming that I was a new student, not the wife of their Executive Chef. I wondered if the Dean would hasten to think me immature based on my looks alone. As if on cue my fears began to snowball. Did I choose the wrong outfit? Am I overdressed? Underdressed? What if I say the wrong thing? What if I sound as young as I look? What if…? What if…? What if he just doesn’t like me?!

To to be safe I adjusted my scarf 18 million more times and added another layer of “Fig”.

You could have guessed, I’m sure, but my fears were miraculously unfounded. In fact, if only I had known what the Dean was really thinking about us… Read the full post at TGWK Blog

Get to know me in my Guest Editor feature

Get to Know feature

Today I’m kicking off a new Guest Editor // GET TO KNOW series on The Girl Who Knows in an interview with Editor-in-Chief, Stephanie Wantanabe. I am a huge fan of Stephanie’s and her terrific questions were a wonderful way to dive into a thorough reflection on what makes me tick. The feature begins below; to keep reading follow the link at the end of the intro. Enjoy!

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I’ll never forget the first time I saw Natanya.

It was in a Soho loft in NYC. Glitter, bunny ears and blogger babes abounded.
Yet, one girl stood out to me as being exceptionally grounded, down-to-earth, inquisitive and kind. Plus she had a smile that lit up the entire room. I remember thinking that she was a special one and I secretly hoped we would become friends.

Fast forward almost two years later and here we are, collaborating and celebrating all of life’s wonder + magic. Don’t you just love life’s synchronicities?

I feel blessed and delighted that Natanya is one of our Guest Editors in Residence at The Girl Who Knows. Her writing is exceptional. Her thoughtfulness, equally so. What I love most is her insatiable curiosity and zest for life. She’s a magical woman, with so much insight + wisdom.

I hope you enjoy getting to know her a bit more through our fun Q+A below!

Read the Q+A here.

New on The Girl Who Knows: 11 Alternatives to Fast Fashion

http://thegirlwhoknows.com/whatwewearmatters/

Moving around a lot does wonders for creating a well edited closet. Not wanting to load and unload boxes of clothes that I never really wore I did a thorough refresh on all my wearables from hat to shoes before our most recent move north. It was both wonderfully thrilling to be rid of things that had been taking up space but also quietly disturbing to find so many items that I liked a lot but were too worn out to be kept as a future wardrobe staple. So much of my closet had come from “fast fashion” retailers that I realized I was constantly buying new stuff even though I ascribed to the credo that we should get creative with what we have rather than relying on a new purchase to make a statement.

So, in an effort to change my ways and find out how I could put my dollars to better use I found a group of retailers who are making quality clothes with an eye on environmental stewardship and higher labor standards. The 11 winners are featured in my latest article at The Girl Who Knows. Visit the article here and let us know what you think.

What ethical brands do you love? Did you think you’ll buy from any of the companies I listed? Leave a comment on the article – can’t wait to hear!

 

 

The Girl Who Knows

The Girl Who KnowsI have news! It wasn’t long ago that I was invited to be a guest editor among a cohort of other fabulous women at a fabulous women’s online magazine, The Girl Who Knows, created and curated by the industrious, beautiful, and wise Stephanie Watanabe (who I met what feels like ages ago in New York City and have kept in touch with over the years).

My first article, Non-Advice for Accessing Your Inner Guidance, is now up on the site which I invite you to check out! If you want to comment, let me know what you think in the comments section below the article!

I love nothing more than sharing a piece of my heart with the world, and this first article is a deeply personal and honest reflection of what I think is so very important in this day and age. The ability to tune into our own inner guidance when there are plenty of loud voices urging us to play follow the leader and ignore our instinct. In a time when we need genuine leadership, when we crave the ability to trust our leaders, when we yearn for the clear-sightedness of a broader view, there is nothing more important that honing the ability to do and be that for ourselves.

I hope you find the article full of useful and inspiring non-advice, and if you like it please share it on social media. I’m so thankful for your readership here and hope you’ll join me for a time at The Girl Who Knows. We’re going to have a lot of fun.

xo and thank you!